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Importance of trust/honesty
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Posted 2 months ago How important is trust and honesty in everyday life? Is it ever okay to tell a lie? Do you believe that morals play a part in a person's honesty level? Every cloud has a silver lining. |
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| Posted 2 months ago Dear teacher_411, How important is trust and honesty in everyday life? It's vital - but like breathing, we hardly ever notice it - except when it stops.
Is it OK to tell a lie? NO!!!
(OK, i lied - that depends to some measure on how you define a lie. For example, if my wife asks me whether a certain dress "makes her look fat." there's NO way I'm going to say "Yes" even if it does. And I can think of other (unusual) situations where I'd consider a "lie" to be OK. Most of the time, no - but a lot can depend on the circumstances.)
Do you believe that morals play a part in a person's honesty level? Well, how do you define "Morals?"
The term “morality” can be used descriptively to refer to a code of conduct put forward by a society or some other group, such as a religion, or accepted by an individual for her own behavior or normatively to refer to a code of conduct that, given specified conditions, would be put forward by all rational persons. But in most cases, I'd say that some definition of "morality" has to play a part in one's "honesty level."
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| Posted 2 months ago John, Thank you for your answer. But it leaves me asking more questions. When someone lies consistently is there a chance that they could ever be trusted? How much should be too much when it comes to limits? What if lying is like breathing for a person? And when someone lies to you does that give you an escape to retaliate with lies? Teacher_411 Every cloud has a silver lining. |
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| Posted 2 months ago T_411. I think that a person lies because he is afraid of answering a truth that could be bad for the listener. I also think that a person lies because he wants to impress his audience. answers a) Consistently? No b) you put the limits, if the lies are affecting your life, THOSE ARE THE LIMITS. c)too bad. we all lie, in a way, but ...like breathing no way, then that person could be a complete stranger. |
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| Posted 2 months ago Fer, Thank you for your response. Between what I feel and what you and John have shared I have a lot of decisions to make. If anybody else has thoughts to share, please be unafraid to share. Teacher_411 Every cloud has a silver lining. |
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| Posted 2 months ago T_411:De nada (you'r welcome) what about your decisions, have you taken them? that's something hard to do, isn't it? |
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| Posted 2 months ago Dear teacher_411,
!. When someone lies consistently is there a chance that they could ever be trusted? I'd say no - if someone "lies consistently," then, if s/he is not believed when s/he (occasionally) tells the truth, s/he has only him/herself to blame (Remember "The Boy Who Cried Wolf.")
2. How much should be too much when it comes to limits? I'm afraid that's far too subjective a judgment to allow for a "black & white" answer. But I also think that each person is very likely to know when his/her personal limit has been reacher/exceeded.
3. What if lying is like breathing for a person? Then you have a pathological liar, and a fairly good chance that the individual is a sociopath. I would have as little as possible to do with such a person.
4. And when someone lies to you does that give you an escape to retaliate with lies? I would say no. Then you have compromised your integrity and gained little or nothing. It's definitely not worth it.
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| Posted 2 months ago Hello from the other side of the world! 1. When someone lies consistently is there a chance that they could ever be trusted? No. Yesterday I met a former colleague of mine who had to stop teaching for consistent lying. Although, in some aspects she was a good teacher. I think she found herself in a vicious circle of her own lies ( starting in her childhood when she lied to her demanding father) and couldn't get out of it. Anyway, I asked her how she was doing and what she was doing....and she lied again , she even described her new imaginative position in details and criticized her imaginative principal. 3. What if lying is like breathing for a person? I belive there's a thin line between a pathological lier and a person who lies too much. Once you're caught in your own web of lies, it's difficult to get out.
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| Posted 2 months ago Fer, Sorry it took so long to respond, but for some reason my phone would not allow me acess to the webpage. Yes, I have made some very hard choices over the last few days. It is nice not having to expect the truth and not be given it. It is also nice to know I am strong enough and know myself well enough to make hard decisions. I am taking it day by day. To conclude, I am still happy because I have not changed who I am, I just chose to expect better for myself. Teacher_411 Every cloud has a silver lining. |
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| Posted 2 months ago T_411: dear teacher, I thought you didn't want to share that answer with me. I'm glad you feel better and stronger. It took me so long to respond too, sorry I've been too busy. |
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| Posted 2 months ago Fer, You, my friend, are very forgiven. It does take strength to make decisions and then even more strength to stand behind them. I have the requirement of honesty from now on. It feels good to be me and not having to worry about being lied to. Every cloud has a silver lining. |
