TheApple

 I think we all have differing priorities in our personal hierarchy of values. And while it may seem a little silly to try to evaluate whether, say, loyalty is more important to you than, say, honesty in a friend, I suspect it might be a valuable exercise in introspection to consider just what we value most.

To assist here  are two lists of "personal qualities":

http://www.sunraye.com/job_net/ws8.htm

 http://www.sc.edu/career/Pdf/identifypersonalqualities.pdf

I do not make friends easily. It is not that I am not a friendly person. It is that I do not call everyone I know or spend time with friends. My friendships are a continual work in progress. I get along with people well enough, but to be considered a true friend the person must first be trustworthy. If I cannot trust the person I cannot be friends with the person. I have great friendships that have lasted because of such need. Many people want trustworthy or honest friends, but sometimes we settle for second best when we could have the top choice. I have a handful of true friends, then I have many people I share common  interest with and we have a fine time when we get together, but I would never consider them my friends. I call them my buddies. To me there is a huge difference.

Loyalty is not that big to me because we all make mistakes and are not 100 percent loyal all the time. We all need to have room for forgiveness.